Some Thoughts on VD
Lately, as I have been listening to the radio in the morning to keep me from just rolling over and going back to sleep, I've been subjected to a significant number of commercials saying "if you love your girlfriend you'll buy her the product that we tell you to." I'd like to think my lover is able to figure out what would make a good gift for me without resorting to tired old cliches or assuming that because I'm a woman I want diamonds, or flowers, or chocolate. Okay, I'll take the chocolate- but wait until tomorrow to buy it so that you can give me twice as much!

*ahem* where was I?

Oh yes, we are bombarded with messages that, in order to show someone you love them you must buy them the most expensive gift you can afford from list X if it's for a girl or list Y if it's for a guy- as modified by age of course. We must remember that no child can be happy without the latest console and video games.

We are expected to waste our money to buy specific things for specific people, or preferably everyone we can think of who might, or might not be, appropriate to offer gifts to on the occasion. Instead of thinking about what we know of the person and selecting something we know they'll like we're supposed to pick out something expensive that they may or may not actually care for.

I would rather get a gift that shows the person giving it cares enough to know something about who I am and what I like than someone who shows that they are able to spend wads of dough on junk. It's the thought that counts- so please put some thought into it.

and now for the rant I had originally planned:

Valentines day is an excuse to show affection to people, and I feel the same way about that I do about those days which are excuses to go out and get drunk- If it's worth doing it's worth doing when you will get enjoyment from it, not just on special days set aside for it. I don't want a lover who will shower me with gifts on the assigned days and then nothing for the rest of the year. I want a lover who will be nice to me all the time and occasionally give me stuff just because he loves me.

I get that some people are busy and need to make a point of scheduling alone time with their darling, and there's nothing wrong with that- but if you only do it once or twice a year that just isn't enough. At least I know damn well it wouldn't be enough for me and I intend that, no matter how hectic things get in our lives, my Love and I will spend a couple of hours just us time together at least once a week.

And if the nightmares dreams I've had of giving birth to twins are prophetic things will get really hectic. (No, I'm not pregnant and don't plan on getting that way until certain things are taken care of.)